The facility I have had access to on passionsearch has been unprecedented in my life and not leaving well enough alone, not only did I have to search for and answer all the many communications I was enjoying from the huge population on the site I had to start vetting dates through other dates. More precisely, if I found a girl I was interested in and she me but through whatever reason neither of us could pinpoint we didn’t really hit it off beyond some nice chatting or a few emails-certainly neither of us pursued the other for something off line-then I would, on occasion, ask if maybe she knew of someone for me while I considered the same for her. It was the old friend of a friend friends dating ploy I thought might work well.
Sometimes it worked too well.
Even with a date that doesn’t work you do not want to date that failed date’s friend. Yes, there are many Harry Met Sally stories out there but really they hardly ever work. It is hard enough dating a friend, it is double so dating a friend of a friend. And on a dating site like passionsearch where there are just so many people and therefore so many friends these people might have, friends dating can be an inevitability in such an open adult community if you let it be!
But friends dating friends’ friends is not always such a good idea.
There will come jealousy, not over what a couple has but the guy or girl in-between, the one it didn’t work-out with initially will always be wondering, especially in the face of their friend’s seemingly present healthy dating, why they couldn’t work out with the guy or girl their friend is now dating.
I am committed to passionsearch and all the wonderful things it allows me..but won’t ever again date friends of friends who are or who I have been to them, failed dates.