For not only who and what I am-and what I want-but to the times I look in, I know I have to keep the personals I write relevant on passionsearch. It’s the least I can do seeing as I am on such an up-to-the second hip dating site of millions, that I have shifted my dating to online looking almost exclusively, that I am currently part of such a wide-spread community. I feel honor bound to not only put my best face forward on passionsearch but to stay as relevant as I can by reading dating reviews and what not.
Now surely we create personals to reflect who we are…personally. We might want to stay relevant but we also need to stay true to ourselves, we need to lay hints, manage a turn of phrase here and there, attract the right person or persons to us by our little dating add. That’s really the trick with this most basic tool of online-even offline-dating: personals need to honestly reflect who we are but they have to seem hip, they can’t stain us to a specific time or place really and they have fit well with where we post them.
I guess relevancy is subjective? Or maybe just in dating we have to really consider a few options, keep a balance of propriety as we do a sense of style, fit in quite a few factors in our attempts to reach out. We can’t be who we are not, we can’t fit our round personal into a square hole, but we should be ever mindful of the so few words we can use and how they relate to a general population.
But it’s a know-it-when-I-see-it petard. I have written enough personals in my day, I know what works and what doesn’t across passionsearch, or at least I am learning. I realize the who, what, where and why of me procuring dates and how the site works, how I keep as much what’s relevant in my life to what might be relevant to population of passionsearch in general and I am maintaining that balance every time I go on.