The thing you come to learn early on with dating is that you can make memories-and should be making them-with every new partner you have. That’s why we’re on dating sites from eHarmony to passionsearch, why we sometimes take to causal dating as well as we do, why we can as much enjoy something long term as we can just a casual booty-call situation. Dating is all about feeding our memory store, fueling our desire for new experiences and to approach our lives knowing that there is always a potential for the new.
Of course in building memories we can certainly see those memories stinging, when we leave our lover or they us, when we go through our future days recalling so well those of our past. We can have had such good times that all we do is pine for them again, with that person we are no longer with or have some memories we’d rather not recall…but still always seem to! Let’s face it, people aren’t up on Facebook as much as they are simply because they like to keep in touch with grandma! Dealing with our memories sometimes it’s all we can do trying to locate and engage a past lover in an attempt to make more of them or at least relive the one’s we have.
But a site like passionsearch, portals like Fetlife even, these places and more are about moving forward in dating. With the huge popularity and population a free site like passionsearch sees the people searching upon it akin to swimming sharks, who must always move forward to stay alive, to at the very least, make good memories. The philosophy to any good dating site like this is to have, hold and enjoy your memories but to look on your present dating as a way to make new ones, to always be living in the present as you naturally store away the good times and bad in your mind so you will indeed cherish all you encounter in your dating.