Ironic as it might seem, free dating and the classic steady monogamous relationship don’t have to be rivals. Single guys and girls searching a passionsearch.com for casual situations and those getting-up on Harmony might seem to be both after different things…and they are. But without free dating monogamy has nothing to compare itself to and monogamy scares the bejesus out of the free dater so much he or she will do all in their power to keep their fucking no-strings attached!
Neither way of dating or conducting one’s intimate life is objectively right or wrong and the plethora of sites like eHarmony and passionsearch stand testament to what so many people want on each end of the spectrum. There are even those folk who feel compelled over the course of their lifetime or even the course of a month, to try a little monogamy, with a splash of free sex and vacillate between the two so regularly-depending on the partner they are with-that really they can’t call themselves a free dater or a monogamous partner.
But seeing as free dating is not the norm, how often it is criticized and how much more we see adds for those match-making sites then we ever will a passionsearch, free dating is often seen as the red-headed step child, but no one considers that without this approach to dating monogamy would not thrive. In order to see the value in a monogamous relationship there has to be the hint, hope, even slightly niggling possibility that our partner might cheat, might stray from the monogamous path. What makes staying true so valuable is that we can, at any time, take on the mantle of free dating and nit be true.
Therefore we do need our ying with or yang, no matter if we are dipping our yin into many a yang or just one.